COMFORTABLE?

For a while, I feel like I've been in a place that's comfortable. I've stopped going out of my comfort zone and I want to put a stop to this. I know that when I'm taking risks, more opportunities come my way. So I've came up with 3 points to get rid of the comfort zone.

• SAY YES 

Wanna hang out? YES. Wanna come to a party? YES. Wanna collab? YES. Wanna see how many donuts we can eat before we throw up? er YES. You will never know what something can lead to if you always say no. Most of the time it's our own minds that persuade us to say no because of many reasons, such as anxiety or just not feeling worthy enough. However when you get over that initial feeling of doubt, you're exposed to feelings, people and experiences you would have never encountered!

•   GET A NEW HOBBY

Try something new out. Maybe even try something that you don't like, or something you've attempted in the past but wasn't that good at. For example, I'm not that good at graffiti art, so I could possibly find a graffiti art class near me and attend. This would get you out of your comfort zone and you will also meet some cool people and learn something new.

• BE CONSISTENT

Always do something that is out of your comfort zone. You could set yourself weekly goals that can be as simple as, ordering something different from Starbucks, or starting a conversation with someone or reading a newspaper every morning on the way to school/ work. You start to build your confidence with stepping out of your comfort zone, when you take small steps and be consistent.


Amber x

LETTER TO MY YOUNGER SELF

Dear Younger Self,
                               I know that sometimes you can feel sad because of what happened but please know that those feelings of sadness, anger and confusion will soon disappear and turn into happiness.
It's okay to be different, it's actually what will make people like you. Don't feel left out or boring if you don't do what everyone else is doing, you will be thankful soon that you didn't partake in their "fun".
Sometimes you need to break friendships as they are bad for you. It may be hard as you have invested so much time, money and energy into them, however it is for the best and you will find friends that will help you grow rather than hold you back.
Even though people have hurt you don't hold grudges it will take up too much of your time. Instead learn to forgive and forget and you will be happier.
Don't let anyone tell you that you dreams are too big and that your dreams are unachievable because no dream is too big and trust me when I say you will achieve anything you put your mind to.
And lastly, You know yourself extremely well. You know what you like and what you dislike so be more confident with your decisions.

 Love 18 year old you x

BULLYING!

I thought I would write about bullying today as I know it is something a lot of people deal with, and it is something I have been through.

Firstly I want to define what bullying is in my opinion. I think bullying is when someone or a group of people physically or verbally abuses another person over a long period of time. However it does mean different things to different people.

I was bullied in secondary school and since leaving it's funny to see how everyone's paths are completely different to what I thought they would be. Even my own path. I feel extremely proud to be able to say I have an unconditional offer for a university that I love, studying something I am passionate about, but if I'm honest I don't think I would have pushed myself as much if I didn't go through everything in secondary school. I felt the need to prove certain people wrong and to prove myself wrong for believing what they said for so long. If you are in a position were you are being bullied use that anger you probably feel towards them to better yourself.

Lastly, even though it's hard, you should feel sorry for bullies. For them to be able to bring down another person shows they must be dealing with something very difficult in their own life. I used to try my hardest to pray for those who bullied me, that they would find happiness and would no longer feel the need to bully others.

"A bully grows weaker and a victim gets stronger."

I would love to know your thoughts and opinions on bullying.

Amber x